Have you taken your resolution for 2013? A New Year is a great time to take resolutions. Most people do. But what’s the point?
Why do we make resolutions in New Year? Do we keep them till the end of the year? If not what’s wrong? I’m going to discuss these points in this post.
What’s the point of making New Year resolutions?
The whole concept of New Year resolution is to give ourselves a goal point or a target for the year. A new year is like a blank book. You can make it the way you want.
Since it is all blank you gotta write something on it. Your new year resolutions help you write something on the blank book – the new year you have ahead of you.
In this sense, its great to have a goal. So it is good to make new year resolutions.
If you don’t make any resolutions, it is somewhat true that you will start a new year without a fixed goal or a clear vision about your personal life or your business.
So a new year resolution will help you plan ahead, dream ahead, visualize ahead how your life or business will be at the end of the year, or how you want it to be.
If you don’t visualize anything regarding your life or business, then you probably will start the year and progress without anything much meaningful or even anything at all.
When will a new year resolution go pointless?
If it is forgotten right away. Sadly, in most cases new year resolutions are forgotten on the 2nd of January. Well, may be I’m exaggerating a bit, but yes, its gets forgotten before January ends.
Why? This could be because of any or all of the following reasons:
1. You took the resolution simply because you had to and not because you wanted to.
2. You took the resolution because everyone around you was taking one.
3. You took the resolution just for the sake of it, but really didn’t mean it.
4. You took a wrong resolution.
5. You took an unrealistic resolution.
And yes, a new year resolution becomes so pointless because of the above mentioned reasons. Let me address each one of those a bit more in detail –
1. You took the resolution simply because you had to and not because you wanted to
Who said that there “should” be a resolution with every new year? There is no rule and it is not written on any stone. You can start a new year without a resolution and do just fine.
In fact it is far better to have no resolution at all rather than taking a resolution and force yourself for the first few days and then leave it aside and finish the year off with a guilty feeling.
Remember there is no rule that you have to take a new year resolution. Don’t force yourself on it.
2. You took the resolution because everyone around you was taking one
Imitating others won’t work here. If you take a resolution it is going to be for the good of your life and/or your business.
If you take a resolution just because a friend of yours is making one, its not gonna hold for long.
I see that there are websites that give you “ready made” new year resolutions. You can simply go and pick one.
Although such websites can give you an “idea” of what a new year resolution could be, it won’t fit you perfectly if its not meant for you.
It is your life and your business, so do not make a resolution just because your friend is making one. Make it your resolution.
3. You took the resolution just for the sake of it, but really didn’t mean it
This is a direct by product of #1 above. Since you simply make a resolution thinking you “have to”, you just make a resolution for the sake of it. Say, you make a resolution that you will quit smoking this year.
If you really meant it, you will take the necessary actions and try your very best to make it. But if you really didn’t mean it, you are not going to even remember your resolution when you wake up after the new year party.
Don’t be too spontaneous to take a new year resolution. If you really want to benefit from the resolution, take the time to think about the resolution and make a meaningful one.
4. You took a wrong resolution
Oh yes, you took the wrong one. Instead of making it about thing “a” you were focusing on thing “b”. Be it your business or personal life, if you point your energy and hard work in the wrong direction you are not going to hit the target.
There is no point in wondering at the end of the year what went wrong.
You could have taken a good new year resolution, you could have remembered it and worked for it throughout the year sincerely. But if you didn’t achieve it, you probably took the wrong road.
So, reassess your new year resolution now, rather than wondering at the end of the year.
5. You took an unrealistic resolution
Make it a point that you put yourself on a road that you can travel on. If you’ve been a chain smoker for 10 years, don’t make a resolution that you will quit smoking this year.
That’s pretty unrealistic.
Rather you can try taking small reasonable steps. Say, you reduce the number of cigarettes you smoke per day. Try this for a few months and if it works, you can go about reducing the number still.
If the resolution is unrealistic there is an extremely high chance that you will simply ignore it very soon.
So did you make a resolution this year? What is it? And do you plan to review your resolution to actually make it meaningful? Please open up in the comments!