But you don’t see the results. And that’s not fair, isn’t?
I am going to share with you some of the “hidden” obstacles that stop you altogether or delay you from achieving your personal or business success.
I call these obstacles as hidden because, you might not realize that they’re affecting your progress; because they don’t hit on you directly but mostly haunt you indirectly (or without your knowledge).
Here you go….
Do you live in the present?
Have you ever realized that you often drift here and there? It is natural. You might have experienced this – whenever you are doing something, your mind won’t be at that particular task, at any particular moment.
Let’s say you’re in a classroom. Do you pay attention to the lecture or do you dream about your girlfriend/boyfriend?. I’m talking about something similar – but on a larger scale that could affect your progress.
When you’re writing your blog post, where are you actually? Do you put your full attention into your blog post or do you think about the kitchen sink tap that needs a dripping fix?
Living in the present is about giving yourself fully to the current task you’re doing. And this is very crucial for your personal and business success.
Are you having tea with your hubby? Be there fully mentally and physically. Do not check your emails partly and have a 1/2 conversation with your hubby. You can do neither of them properly.
Are you writing a blog post or a newsletter to your subscribers, or are you planning your marketing campaign, give it your full attention. If you get distracted, you won’t be able to finish that important task in time.
You might also make a poor progress and when the deadline approaches, you might panic and this will directly affect the quality of whatever you are producing!
Well if you prefer to handle more than one task at a time that’s fine. I’m not against multi-tasking, coz some really prefer to live that way and they’re more productive that way (your truly is that way, didn’t you guess?).
But you must be having, say, 3 to 4 tasks at a time to handle, and not 100 tasks spawning at your head?
You can listen to music while typing your blog post while reading posts from your feed reader. But you cannot also be talking on the phone to your friend, and instant messaging and try to finish your online shopping at Amazon.
Only certain kind of tasks can be combined and are humanly possible with multi-tasking. And this really varies with person. Some can write more productively and more focused when they listen to music. For others, music could be a great distraction when they’re writing.
So you know your capabilities and limitations. Never cross those limits and waste your precious time.
If you find out that you cannot combine two tasks without losing yourself in the chaos, never combine them again!
Do you learn from your mistakes?
Everyone makes mistakes. In fact, mistakes are an integral part of our lives. Making mistakes is not fatal.
And you cannot be a perfect human being (or should I call “ideal”) who doesn’t make any mistakes. In fact, such a human being is yet to come to planet earth.
But the above paragraph doesn’t give you a generous opportunity to keep making mistakes again and again. Whenever you make a mistake and pay a price for that, step back and analyze what had just happened.
Unearth the causes of the failure, find out what went wrong and learn from your mistakes.
Find out what works and what doesn’t. Make it a point that you’ve learned you lesson and just move on. Never repeat that mistake again.“ Never regret. If it’s good its wonderful. If it’s bad it’s experience – Victoria Holt.
Do you judge others?
This one is a time killer and tampers your self esteem. From what I’ve seen this is also not good for your health.
Why waste your precious time in researching about others? Why are you peeking over other’s shoulders and judging? Why do you bother in the first place?
If someone’s action or behavior directly affects you, see what YOU can do to change the situation. Never blame others for whatever happens. Take responsibility.
Do not waste your time and resources in judging others; you simply don’t have control of others. But you have total control of YOURSELF.
So stop judging and blaming others and start changing yourself to fix things or make them better.
Do you have clear goals?
So you want personal and business success?
Have you defined your version of “success”?
For some, getting the best employee award could mean success. For some others, making it to the top 10 in their field could mean success.
Without having a clear end point or a goal (long term or short term), how can you work on things that will help you achieve that goal? And that’s where your success lies, right?
And when you do set your goals, get as specific as you can. Also split them into easily achievable chunks.
“Finish writing one ebook before the end of the year” is a very vague goal. Get specific by defining the title of the ebook and create a plan.
Break the bigger goal into smaller chunks. Plan on investing a few hours per week or per day (depending upon your workload) and start working on it immediately.
Not having a clear goal and not taking action on the little steps that are needed in achieving that goal is a top failure.
Some of these obstacles might sound odd to you. For some people the obstacles mentioned above could mean nothing.
But believe me, even if they don’t haunt your progress directly, they might indirectly affect your personal and business success.
What now? You’ve been warned. So stop, analyze, weed out and move on.